DADDY IS HERE! My dad has come to Sweden to visit us, and I am so glad he is here. I must admit that the things I remember when I lived at home are not all the same with dad as I remembered. Let me explain.
Dad has thick black curly hair- well not now! His hair is still curly, but now it is more white than black, and not quite as thick.
Dad is a man of few words. I don't remember Dad ever talking so much before! What a wealth of information! He still needs to clear his throat before he starts sharing his thoughts, but he really has a lot to say- and most of it is worth hearing!
Dad is always at work- either his job, or on a list of things to do. This is the first time I recall seeing Dad not working on a project! (Besides when he was sick) COOL! I wonder how long it will take till he gets stir crazy?
But you know what? I also realised that I haven't lived at home for almost 20 years. I know I have changed a lot in these past years, of course even parents have the right to change, get inspired, have new goals and outlooks on life. Dad has survived a couple bouts with cancer, and I am sure that is bound to have a profound effect on anyone.
So, why do we expect certain people to remain unchanged through the years? Why do we lay that expectation on others, especially those who are older than us? Why do we expect those younger than us to change? Now that I think about it, it really is silly to think that my folks would be exactly the same as when I left home to move to Sweden.
Anyways, It is good to have dad here, to be able to get to know him again, and to let the kids have some fun with him.
I have a story to tell (actually I have many stories to tell, but one in particular is on my mind right now.) Let me preface it by saying that (number one) our family loves chocolate- especially the high cocoa content chocolate-70%. Also, (to understand what I have been thinking about) our church is in the process of discovering what gifts we have- each person is given a (of a few) special talents and gifts that God wants us to use to build His church, and glorify Him.
So, the story.
It was Sunday morning, and We all sat around the breakfast table before getting ready for church. We talked for quite a while, then it was time to get ready. We were in a bit of a rush, so no one cleared off the table- leaving tea cup and tea bags, bread crust, and opened bar of chocolate, and empty orange juice glasses on the table. (We remembered to blow out the candles)
We went to church, and then to a friends house for fika (coffee and a light snack). We were expecting Kris (hubby) sister for a visit, so we came home around 3 in the afternoon. I noticed some silver foil in Jackie's cage (our Jack Russel Terrier) and wondered what she got into. But she often finds wrappers and plastic to chew on, so I didn't think much of it. But a little while later, I noticed that she has .... regurgitated?! (threw up) something. She doesn't usually do this, so I checked it out. Sure enough- it smelled like chocolate.
Now, for us humans, this would have been annoying that someone else ate your chocolate, and nothing more. But for dogs, chocolate is poison. They cannot digest the chemicals in the cocoa bean, and it acts as a toxin, damaging their organs, especially the liver.
So, we did a little detective work and figured out that she ate about 65 grams of chocolate. A big dog would have gotten sick, but survived. But our little pooch weighs only 8½ kilos. This was a toxic dose, bordering on lethal. So, we called the vet, took her in and she got a shot. The shot made her throw up- over and over again. Each time she would get the shakes, begin to pant and foam at the mouth. Then the heaves. It was heart wrenching to watch it over and over again. But we knew the poison had to come out to save her life. We comforted her, held her between bouts, and helped her stand up when it was time for the next round. We stayed with her throughout the evening, and kept her warm, comforted her and let her know she was loved.
Later in the evening, the drugs wore off, and she had a bit more energy. But she tires out quickly, and sleeps a lot.
And now, the thoughts:
Each of us has a God given talent or two, sometimes more. We can often deny our gifts, wish we had another gift or even try to take the gift that someone else has. The gift God gave to me is tailor made for me, and is not intended for someone else. It may not be as glamorous as the person that can sing like the angels, or speak into the hearts of everyone listening. It may not make me famous or rich. But it does give a sense of fulfillment and peace. So, what happens when I try to imitate (take) someone else's gift? There might not be any immediate signs of trouble, no one will even notice! But, if I continue, I am eating poisonous chocolate. It tastes good at the time, but I am ultimately damaging myself. Hopefully there will be someone to love me enough to take me to the "vet", and love me through the heart wrenching medicine of getting back on track. But that takes guts. First, you have to recognise that even if the person is "good", it is not what God wants, it is not their gift. Next, you have to confront them, and do something they will probably not like or appreciate at the time. Then you have to love them enough to stay by their side through unpleasant times, even repeated experiences. In the end, you know you are saving their (spiritual) life, but you may never be thanked for it. Do we have the guts to do all that? Or is it easier to stand by and hope it will be OK? Hmmm. I think I need to talk to the vet about a few things in my life!
Luckily, I am not a dog, but I do have a God- and He said that I may eat chocolate- but stay away from the dog food!